I *Heart* Male Submission

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Am I even talking about prodoms anymore? Okay, let’s box this bit off for now. [I think there is a problem there with them representing dom women in a way that means there's no direct connection between the hitty bit and the clitoral engorgement bit.] Okay. Done.And I don’t even care so much. God, you can’t just rule out prostitution from everything. Is showing a boy your knickers for a wine gum prostitution? Is giving a man a blow job because he did the washing up every night for a week prostitution? Is this blog prostitution? Am I only a bunch of Google adwords away from being a sexworker?

But anyway now I think what I’m most ragey about is the cultural archetype of the dom woman. An archetype which so happens to be a pro among other things. But there are a lot more problems with her than that.

Now, most people who belong to cultural archetypes are pissed off about it. Female doms are cultural archetypes, vicar are, hell’s angels are, effeminate gay men are. You know the people I mean. There the kinds of people who you could see in an advert for, say, a chocolate bar and that person would be dressed a certain way and act a certain way you get pretty quick what kind of person they were meant to be.

Dom women – dominatrixes – are cultural archetypes. Male doms and female subs aren’t.

Male subs are.

Here we are, look.

Pretty much if someone belongs to a group of people that you can dress up as for a fancy dress party then that person belongs to a cultural archetype.

But that jolity is the very best example of what looks back at up from the perception mirror. And here we have another *huge* problem with the way the media represents me and - probably more importantly - the people I like to hit with stuff.

2. I hate the way the media presents male subs even more than I hate the way it presents female doms
For just as the default dom woman is a pro, the default sub man is a client. A sub man in the media is always paying because the only dom women allowed in the media are pros.

At least these prodom women who represent me in the media are glamorous, sexually desirable creatures. They might not be my style, but they are pretty damn okay compared with some of the things you see in the media to represent male submissives. Nasty hooded cowering out of shape men. Faceless. Worthless and useless, sick and depraved; sacrificing their dignity - their humanity - on the altar of their cocks. Talk about unnegotiated humiliation.

It makes me sad that my favourite type of people in the whole damn world are debased like this. And, yeah, this post could go on all night as I weave in jokes about how I’d rather they were being debased by me and etc, etc, but really, that’s not the point. And even submissive men get to say, hey, being humiliated like this is not okay.

And sometimes I get to say that too. Because I have a vested interest in how the media and therefore society view sub men. Because some of the lies miss a bit and splash back and hit me.

Because, god, sometimes the media can portray the prodom women as so *contemptuous* of male submission. I hate it when the media give the impression that prodom women (and therefore *all* dom women) think male submission is some kind of problem that they are dutifully dealing with for the good of us all, some irritating pestilence that *sigh* has to be managed, but wouldn’t it be so much better if it would just, I don’t know, go away, or something.

I have been with submissive men who pretty much treated me like shit. I am happy to tell you over and over that they were utter fuckers. But I would never talk trash about their submission.

Submission is the most beautiful powerful gracious thing I have ever seen in my life. And I’ve met Cat Deeley. It is a Waterloo sunset and butterfly’s wings and the face of god (usual caveats apply to god reference.) And dom women, you know, real dom women fucking say this all the time. This is the one consistent thing I hear. But you know, that’s ’cause they’re dom women. Of course they like male submission.

But their voices don’t get heard in the wider world. We’ve covered this. Out there I feel, like the message is that liking male submission isn’t very dom-like. Getting turned on to the point of inarticulacy by a man just getting on his knees isn’t very dom-like.

The whole ice queen thing? What the fuck even *is* that.

*Society* is contemptuous of submissive men. (It is a kink that in fiction is punishable by death.) It’s probably more socially acceptable for a man to get on his knees to suck cock these days than to get on his knees to kiss a woman’s boots. And maybe these media images of worthless worms is where it comes from. Or fuels it. Or is fuelled by it. Or something. Whatever. It needs to stop. I *hate* that my culture (the narrow one and the wide one) hates submissive men; and that so many submissive men – as a result - hate themselves and that does not make being a dom woman any damn easier. Representing something a man secretly hates himself for wanting. Ouch, it burns.

I love male submission, you know, even at its most annoying. Truly, I do. Without it, I’d be in prison.

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