Comments on: I Love My Handcuffs More Than You

By: bitchyjones

bitchyjones — Tue, 22 May 2007 18:20:08 +0000

So are they for actual punching. I think punching is – woah – hot. But I have never done it.

Might be getting to soonish though.

By: Calico

Calico — Tue, 22 May 2007 16:23:04 +0000

Thanks Jack! Yes, sap gloves are weighted leather gloves (with lead shot I think).

I put them on and I feel like a 200-pound man. It’s awesome.

By: Jack Benimble

Jack Benimble — Tue, 22 May 2007 08:13:32 +0000

Sap gloves:
http://www.tbotech.com/sap-gloves.htm
Weighted so as to impact harder.

And you are explicitly best.

*pours another cup of tea – naked*

By: bitchyjones

bitchyjones — Mon, 21 May 2007 18:41:40 +0000

Yes, I see your point. But I still would have liked it to say *explicitly* that I was best.

Although I have to admit this whole conversation is now getting somewhat embarrassing. I am usually more humble than this, honestly.

By: LAS

LAS — Mon, 21 May 2007 18:24:22 +0000

Being last on a list like that (i.e. not ranked, just rambly prose paragraphs) is actually *best*. It means you’re strong enough to be the anchor for the whole article. “Save the best for last” and all that.

By: bitchyjones

bitchyjones — Mon, 21 May 2007 16:00:36 +0000

Hi Tim

I understand, I think. But it does kind of play into the way I feel about how sexual dominace is represented more generally – especially as it occurs in women.

And thank you very much for squishing me into your 400 words.

(You could have made me the first though – admit it, I *am* best)

By: Tim

Tim — Sun, 20 May 2007 23:29:23 +0000

Hi there! As the one who wrote that Caught in the Net post, yes, not a ranked list. The emphasis on the *not* professional was no sort of value judgment, either, but more in recognition of the fact that, hmm, a lot of dommish blogs I read are by pros, isn’t that strange, because most of the submissive blogs I read aren’t by professionals, how ab0ut that. But with five links + commentary in only 400 words there’s precious little room for nuance.

I’m not a professional, either. At least not in any way having to do directly with sex or kinky things. Most people I know aren’t. You were exceptional in that respect only in the context of the company I placed you in, and I’m sorry if it seemed I was implying otherwise.

By: bitchyjones

bitchyjones — Sun, 20 May 2007 14:50:37 +0000

Thank you Jack.

Now, me, I’m not a huge fan of co-topping. I don’t like to share and I think that if it isn’t going to be one on one I’d like an extra sub rather than an extra dom.

However, in this case, you make a lot of sense.

And thank you

BJ x

By: Jack Benimble

Jack Benimble — Sun, 20 May 2007 06:50:48 +0000

The physical dominance thing is hot. I had the pleasure of watching my wife and a domme friend of ours hold down a subbie boy whilst whacking him with riding crops. He was a wiggler. I myself never have allowed myself to lose control during a scene to the point where I needed held down, unless I was already cuffed or tied. I have control issues, which is what makes submission so liberating to me. And I am a big fella, and Mistress might not be able to hold me without prior constraint measures being applied. I love your site; your sense of humor and candid analysis of what goes through your head make this site something special.

By: bitchyjones

bitchyjones — Sat, 19 May 2007 17:29:36 +0000

I have some on my desk too (but my desk is at home – so it’s not *so* exciting). They are nice to play with. The most tactile toy. Slipping the locking arm through and round over and over. Very much the fun.