Why Only Submissive Men Can Save the World

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I have been hanging around on BDSM chat rooms and forums for years and, yeah, I’ve (occasionally) been to real life stuff too (how else do you think I am so damn well informed) and I have seen it all before.

And of course, when I say how much I *heart* male submission and wibble on about being the male submissives’ fangirl, it doesn’t mean that – like pretty much all faces of masculine sexuality – it can’t be a little self centred/blinkered/fucking annoying at times.

For example: I cruise around these websites looking and see these winsome messages/blog posts/personal ads saying stuff like: The long search begins!

Which quickly becomes: Is there no one willing to do revolting things to me?

Hey, excuse us boys, if we’re not queuing up to perform whatever ever revolting sexual service your nasty little brains have dreamed up without a single care for our own dirty screwed-up needs.

(Although, conversely, don’t just say stuff like you’re in charge, it’s whatever you want. And act as if that is some kind of dream ticket. It’s about the place in between. Where my fucked up stuff meets yours and we find something shiny and new. That’s where the magic lives. I have an ad on a board somewhere that makes some reference to wanting something very specific and the implication there is that I want someone who wants that too – not that I want about one email a week pointing out to me that, of course, I can have anything I want because I’m a fucking dom – as if I am an idiot for specifying.)

But meanwhile, back in the world of frustrated, rejected submissive men: Oh, oh, they bleat, there must be a woman somewhere who wants to come round every Wednesday and perform elaborate CBT by shutting my knackers in the fridge door. Why have no women come forward, why, why? Now I am going to have to live a life of utter misery and loneliness because *all* women are so selfish and they wont give me a chance to prove how much I, I mean they, will enjoy the whole fridge door - knackers equation.

Fuck me, for a group of people who are supposed to be unconcerned with the fulfillment of their own needs male subs don’t half carp on about those needs sometimes. And, yes, I want you to have needs. I find that kind of hot. But I also want you to have a sense of fucking perspective.

i sent an imagination-free revoltingly pornographic 3 line email to a Superior Domina and she didn’t even bother to reply, despite the fact i asked her lots of personal and downright rude questions probably to do with pussy worship

Shall we all take a moment to wipe away a tear?

Dominatrixes might at least bother to email back and say ‘No thank you’

Oh yes, because I’ve seen the dingy little websites your sort enjoy and they’re full of ultra polite doms saying things like oh, no thank you, dear.

Because, yes, you know, I can see you. I see where you go and what you do when the whole finding an actual woman thing doesn’t work out. You go and blow it all in the bad places. I’ve see your world full of evil horrible plasti-doms, prodoms, findoms, urgh. It’s scary and dangerous out there for a submissive man.

But you like it like that, right? Of course you do. You built this place. You fucking bank roll it. You own shares in the company. You’re the fucking board of directors. And every horrible scary fake-femdom out there is as black and shiny as every other boy’s toy.

You don’t? You hate all this stuff that is made out of false crap. All these endless rounds of femdom theatre. Posturing, self serving, woman-repelling, black PVC clad nastiness. All this stuff that feeds and feeds and feeds the image of you - submissive men - as worthless, useless, dirty creatures who have needs no real women would ever want to indulge.

Okay, fine. But you need to accept that the worst aspects of femdom – the women who exploit men, who do wrong, who make porn that hates us, who fill femdom with falsehood are enabled by you. By sub men. The crap stuff has nothing to do with dom women, because those women aren’t actual dom women – but it has everything to do with sub men. Sorry – it does.

Only individual male subs can sort this. You built this place. You need to fix it. You have the blueprints. You know how it’s wired. Which is the truth of every problem. Most of the horrible things that perpetuate in femdom do so because male subs keep fucking funding them. (Or sometimes just encouraging them – but it’s hand in pocket time one way or another.)

Male subs have so much power, not just in femdom but in the world. You should use it. Stop eyeing each other suspiciously because you think you are competing for the attention of the only 3 actual dom women in the universe and work together.

And why the fuck don’t sub men support each other more?

I know you. You are driven and energetic and the majority of you are middle aged, middle class white males. I bet you if someone did the stats male submissives would come out as one of the highest earning groups of perverts on earth. No wonder so many people are targeting your kink pounds and trying to keep your eyes off the ball.

The only way to improve the situation is for you, yes you, all of you, to put selfishness aside and change the world. Stop being revolted by yourselves/your sexuality/each other. Change everything. If submissive men stopped funding the horrible woman hating Fem!Dom! industry, if you all just stopped, you could solve all your problems over night. You hold all the damn cards, you bastards. I could write this blog for a million years and it would make no difference if I didn’t have submissive men on my side.

So saddle up and go save the world. Save us dom women and new-dom women and would-be dom women from a fate worse than sexual marginalisation. Brave knights, all of you - make some sacrifices.

And I have faith in submissive men. So don’t let me down.

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