Yep. And a very nice example too. Do you like the Van Darkholm stuff? Have a look. Vuuurry Puurrdy.
It never ceases to piss me off that all the best eyecandy I’ve found so far (apart from that I make myself that is) …has ALL been gay…pff
I mean chrissakes. It’s heartbreaking. You’re right Beej. Femdom is totally fucked.
Daaaaaaaaaaamn. -Love- a guy in chains and USED motor oil/engine grease. Too bad I never find them and it’s usually me instead.
You know, I just watched a movie about how crystal meth was invading the gay community here in the US and damn if it didn’t have plenty of eye candy and the beefcake boys. BUT ALL GAY. >_<
Ah well. Suppose this is why I keep the gay male friends around.. means I get access to all that.
To some extent gay porn is all women have because it’s focusing on the men as objects of sexual desire. I think this is where people who try to make porn for women and claim they’re shooting it from the womens perspective go wrong, they’re still focused on the women when what we want to see are the men.
As far as making porn out of coconuts goes I have a Secret Project(tm) later this summer which should be interesting to you if it works out. I’m using a rather good gay photographer who’s a friend of mine. It seemed safer, at least he knows how to make men the center of the shot.
Have you seen this year’s Dieux du Stade calendar? The theme is “Enchainé au ballon”. The cover pic has a guy with chains around his wrists going down to a rugby ball, the first pic of the year (my second favourite so far) has a guy holding ankle manacles behind his back…
I have it up in my kitchen. My husband keeps on making remarks about how he doesn’t get it. This from the guy who made me live with a poster in the bedroom of Helena Christensen naked for about four years until I got sick of her watching me undress and took her down…
Yes I thought you might have that book, I was hoping you’d say you had some others…dammit… thought I was just too slack in finding anymore. God thats depressing.
And Girl? Yeah…you’re absolutely right. This isn’t just a femdom fiasco. *Porn* for women in general is an abomination . Makes me weep it does. (Respect by the way)
But where exactly are all the talented female photographers? And more to the point…as Emily so rightly points out….why arent any of them focussing on males as sexual objects?
I wonder if its the case that some have tried but found that it has little commercial value.
Would we put our hands in our pockets for ‘good’ porn? I wonder.
Maybe we ought to start our own porn site? If we could be arsed….lol
Certainly love to see the results of your project Emily, if you feel like sharing
@ Emily and @ Thorny – I would *empty* my pockets for some *decent* heterosexual porn that focussed on the men in the frame, rather than women. Where do I sign up to hand over my quality British Pounds?
Girl’s right: porn for straight women hardly understands we like men and we want to drool at pics of hot men in sexy poses or making things that look sexy and virile!
This is so so true. I don’t want pictures of men and women making sweet, sweet luuurrv . . . I want raw maleness in front of the camera for my eyes to devour. Bring on da grease, bring on da funk. (Also: bring on someone to restrain me from writing comments on 3 hrs. sleep, pls.)
Surely. So why is it that the straight porn usually focusses on the women in the action? And whats all the girl on girl bollocks about? Straight porn is aimed at tweaking the male libido, not the female.
Why dont we see the same proportion of boy on boy action depicted in a ’straight environment? Hmm?
Thorny and The Girl, yes the results will certainly be shared by me and the photographer. Do feel free to email me for further details at harlequin@gmail.com or buisness propositions, I think we can make this thing work!
I don’t really care what the label is, whether the product is for straight or gay. I’ve bought the gay erotica books and been given the gay porn (there’s plenty of that that’s goofy and not sexy too) and that works out just fine. I can see the point of “porn for women” and labeling it straight, but really, as long as it’s out there in some venue, does it really matter? Half the time I don’t care to see other women in the shots because it takes away from that masculinity I wanted to see in the first place. So, I’m glad gay men are good at making other men look like dirty, beautiful fuck toys. Sure, it’d be nice if more female photographers did the same but until that happens, the guys are doing a damned fine job as it is.
Yes. It matters. It is not okay to mark any image of a sexualised man as gay porn. It assumes all potential viewers of porn are men.
Also a lot of straight women want to see het sex. I do. I like a bit of guy/guy sometimes and I love to watch guys masturbating but I really like to see het fucking. Yes, porny women are not fun to see – but women I can identify with in my porn? – yes please.
Every woman who likes looking at naked men knows to type gay porn into Google. Isn’t it ridiculous that this is what women need to do to see decent pictures of men?
I have a loathing for the whole fiasco, something ILB knows about!! It just really is annoying if I am trying to find some ‘quality’ (term used loosely) pornography that doesn’t have a habit of drifting to a close up of a straining face of the lady or an extreme close up of pistoning sexual parts – that is not sexy at all in my opinion. More like an anotomical exhibition than something for your sexual frivoloities.
Het porn, I think not. It’s got the guys only in mind, not me.
Hi as a gay guy i suppose i shouldnt be moaning, there is loads of stuff for me out there, but i here so many women MOANING that the male body is unnattractive and not a turn on COMPLETELY NAKED , that ive given up in trying to set my website up to appeal to women. I really don’t understand women at all. Of Course I love men , and love some cock , so il always be admiring. I use naked guys for masturbation purposes, I really dont think women know what they want half the time. I love you girls so dont take offense lol. Please tell guys like me how you want your porn fed to them .
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My name isn't actually literally Bitchy Jones, obviously. Actually. Obviously. I am dominant. Sexually dominant. I like to be the boss in bed. (But I do not do dominatrixing for money. I would starve to death!)
This blog is about journey to find men I can hit with stuff and have them like it.
some people’d pay good money for this kind of abuse
"She blames pro-dommes, very vociferously, for her sexuality being stolen. Now, I can't honestly say what's happened to it, perhaps she sat on it and squished it, but blames all and sundry (well, slim people in PVC catsuits anyway) for something that's clearly her own personal responisibility. Never a good thing. If she doesn't want to be a pro domme, and doesn't want to use their services, then why the incessant banging-on??
She writes incredibly well, but would such a one-trick-pony ever get a publishing deal?"
"There seems to be a Bitchy Jones-esque belief that we are manufactured fantasy influenced 'pin-ups' of the male influenced media and as such we are brainless bimbos who can't think for ourselves because our latex knickers are too tight and we're only receptive to the demands of our clients and the ker-ching! as they walk through our door. The fact that we are independent, intelligent, educated women who can do what they hell we like and with who seems to stick in their bitter little throats."
"Urgh Bitchy Jones. The woman who uses generalisations about prodoms to complain about the generalisations by the media of Female Domination."
"Bitchy Jones has a lot of things she is against. Like strap ons. I understand her point but what she misses out on is that for many men the humiliation aspect comes with the fact that they are being used like a gay man and not like a woman."
"I don't really get why Bitchy Jones is the de facto standard of what a 'dominant woman' is. She is just one person, writing about 'fucking her stable.' Why not just live and let live?
"Her ranting style detracts from any serious points that she may be trying to make. It all sounds like sour grapes to me."
"It is rather frustrating when she is being discussed on TV as having such an influential and well read blog and yet has such narrow minded opinions.
"She is hardly a prophet of femdom."
"I do not think that BJ is a dominant. I do not think that BJ is a woman. And it really does not matter to me. Whatever BJ's blog might have been worth has disappeared over the term of the blog. It has devolved the same way that the news media has. It is all about attention and shock. BJ is just another sanctimonious attention whore."
"I'm not particularly impressed by anything she's written. But to each their own, I'm sure there are guys wanking to it at this moment."
"Personally I find Bitchy Jones more annoying than Elise Sutton"
"I could have agreed with and even sympathized with Bitchy Jones had she just refrained from the cheap shots and the insinuations that attractive pro-Dommes are fake, undominant, money-grubbing bimbos."
"Her rants about the word `Domme', strap-ons and feminization are just annoying."
"The profanity, while plenty gratuitous, lacks any sense of appreciation for the art"
"I find her "My way is the twue right way" attitude rather annoying."
"I'm not up in her business telling her she's not a real Dominant because she's not hot. So why is she trying to say that people like me who are attractive pro-Dommes are just a male-manufactured joke?"
"I'd call her "Bitter Jones", personally..."
"Ill shut this damn thread down if this stupid bitchy jones shit gets started again, lol. the name alone screams koo koo"
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21 Comments
February 8, 2008 at 8:52 pm
Yep. And a very nice example too. Do you like the Van Darkholm stuff? Have a look. Vuuurry Puurrdy.
It never ceases to piss me off that all the best eyecandy I’ve found so far (apart from that I make myself that is) …has ALL been gay…pff
I mean chrissakes. It’s heartbreaking. You’re right Beej. Femdom is totally fucked.
Thanks for the picture….x
February 8, 2008 at 8:55 pm
Do you mean do I have the Van Darkholm book, Male Bondage? Well the answer would be yes. Of course.
I have all the photobooks of male bondage… which would total, uh, just that one.
February 8, 2008 at 9:01 pm
Fuck me, that is sexy. Christ.
And to Thorny: it ain’t just femdom that is fucked. I’m not dominant but I want hot naked dirty men in my pictures too; methinks *porn* is fucked.
February 8, 2008 at 9:41 pm
Woah…girl!
Sorry, had to rein myself in, there.
Very emphatic picture there Bitchy…He’s so dirrrrty I feel I just want to give him a good scrubbing.
February 8, 2008 at 11:09 pm
Damn, I want one of those.
February 9, 2008 at 4:50 am
Daaaaaaaaaaamn. -Love- a guy in chains and USED motor oil/engine grease. Too bad I never find them and it’s usually me instead.
You know, I just watched a movie about how crystal meth was invading the gay community here in the US and damn if it didn’t have plenty of eye candy and the beefcake boys. BUT ALL GAY. >_<
Ah well. Suppose this is why I keep the gay male friends around.. means I get access to all that.
February 9, 2008 at 10:19 am
To some extent gay porn is all women have because it’s focusing on the men as objects of sexual desire. I think this is where people who try to make porn for women and claim they’re shooting it from the womens perspective go wrong, they’re still focused on the women when what we want to see are the men.
As far as making porn out of coconuts goes I have a Secret Project(tm) later this summer which should be interesting to you if it works out. I’m using a rather good gay photographer who’s a friend of mine. It seemed safer, at least he knows how to make men the center of the shot.
February 9, 2008 at 11:00 am
Have you seen this year’s Dieux du Stade calendar? The theme is “Enchainé au ballon”. The cover pic has a guy with chains around his wrists going down to a rugby ball, the first pic of the year (my second favourite so far) has a guy holding ankle manacles behind his back…
There’s a slideshow with some of them here: http://espresso.repubblica.it/style_design/archivio/1139829
Some more here: http://weloveguys.blogspot.com/2007/09/dieux-du-stade-2008.html
I have it up in my kitchen. My husband keeps on making remarks about how he doesn’t get it. This from the guy who made me live with a poster in the bedroom of Helena Christensen naked for about four years until I got sick of her watching me undress and took her down…
February 9, 2008 at 11:13 am
Yes I thought you might have that book, I was hoping you’d say you had some others…dammit… thought I was just too slack in finding anymore. God thats depressing.
And Girl? Yeah…you’re absolutely right. This isn’t just a femdom fiasco. *Porn* for women in general is an abomination . Makes me weep it does. (Respect by the way)
But where exactly are all the talented female photographers? And more to the point…as Emily so rightly points out….why arent any of them focussing on males as sexual objects?
I wonder if its the case that some have tried but found that it has little commercial value.
Would we put our hands in our pockets for ‘good’ porn? I wonder.
Maybe we ought to start our own porn site? If we could be arsed….lol
Certainly love to see the results of your project Emily, if you feel like sharing
February 9, 2008 at 11:19 am
@ Emily and @ Thorny – I would *empty* my pockets for some *decent* heterosexual porn that focussed on the men in the frame, rather than women. Where do I sign up to hand over my quality British Pounds?
February 9, 2008 at 3:39 pm
WOW!
Girl’s right: porn for straight women hardly understands we like men and we want to drool at pics of hot men in sexy poses or making things that look sexy and virile!
February 9, 2008 at 4:37 pm
This is so so true. I don’t want pictures of men and women making sweet, sweet luuurrv . . . I want raw maleness in front of the camera for my eyes to devour. Bring on da grease, bring on da funk. (Also: bring on someone to restrain me from writing comments on 3 hrs. sleep, pls.)
February 9, 2008 at 7:43 pm
Men in “straight” porn don’t look like this because no one who’s straight could possibly be interested in looking at men, right…?
February 10, 2008 at 12:22 pm
Surely girls who watch straight porn could be interested in men…
February 10, 2008 at 3:55 pm
Surely. So why is it that the straight porn usually focusses on the women in the action? And whats all the girl on girl bollocks about? Straight porn is aimed at tweaking the male libido, not the female.
Why dont we see the same proportion of boy on boy action depicted in a ’straight environment? Hmm?
February 10, 2008 at 4:58 pm
Thorny and The Girl, yes the results will certainly be shared by me and the photographer. Do feel free to email me for further details at harlequin@gmail.com or buisness propositions, I think we can make this thing work!
February 10, 2008 at 9:50 pm
I don’t really care what the label is, whether the product is for straight or gay. I’ve bought the gay erotica books and been given the gay porn (there’s plenty of that that’s goofy and not sexy too) and that works out just fine. I can see the point of “porn for women” and labeling it straight, but really, as long as it’s out there in some venue, does it really matter? Half the time I don’t care to see other women in the shots because it takes away from that masculinity I wanted to see in the first place. So, I’m glad gay men are good at making other men look like dirty, beautiful fuck toys. Sure, it’d be nice if more female photographers did the same but until that happens, the guys are doing a damned fine job as it is.
February 10, 2008 at 10:31 pm
Yes. It matters. It is not okay to mark any image of a sexualised man as gay porn. It assumes all potential viewers of porn are men.
Also a lot of straight women want to see het sex. I do. I like a bit of guy/guy sometimes and I love to watch guys masturbating but I really like to see het fucking. Yes, porny women are not fun to see – but women I can identify with in my porn? – yes please.
Every woman who likes looking at naked men knows to type gay porn into Google. Isn’t it ridiculous that this is what women need to do to see decent pictures of men?
February 11, 2008 at 2:49 am
Of course it’s ridiculous.
February 12, 2008 at 4:26 pm
Completely with Thorny on the porn issue here.
I have a loathing for the whole fiasco, something ILB knows about!! It just really is annoying if I am trying to find some ‘quality’ (term used loosely) pornography that doesn’t have a habit of drifting to a close up of a straining face of the lady or an extreme close up of pistoning sexual parts – that is not sexy at all in my opinion. More like an anotomical exhibition than something for your sexual frivoloities.
Het porn, I think not. It’s got the guys only in mind, not me.
January 3, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Hi as a gay guy i suppose i shouldnt be moaning, there is loads of stuff for me out there, but i here so many women MOANING that the male body is unnattractive and not a turn on COMPLETELY NAKED , that ive given up in trying to set my website up to appeal to women. I really don’t understand women at all. Of Course I love men , and love some cock , so il always be admiring. I use naked guys for masturbation purposes, I really dont think women know what they want half the time. I love you girls so dont take offense lol. Please tell guys like me how you want your porn fed to them .