April 25, 2008...10:21 am
Crying Men
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Men crying. It’s a such a secret thing. To see a (stoic, macho, my-kind-of) man cry you often have to be in a pretty intimate space with him and something rather relentlessly unpleasant has to be going on. (So you can kind of join the me-likey dots here.)
These pictures are from a 2005 project by Sam Taylor Wood called Crying Men, but I’d never seen them before. I think they (mostly) fit pretty well with this blog’s remit of finding images of male suffering that are beautiful and emotional and masculine, rather that stupid campy anti-sex panto.
More pictures are here. Also an annoyingly-out-of-print book
I also love Taylor-Wood’s David Sleeping. (Is it still at the National Portrait Gallery? I should go again…)
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April 25, 2008 at 12:05 pm
http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpychris/460727749/
April 25, 2008 at 12:49 pm
v. nice
April 25, 2008 at 6:26 pm
Hot.
April 25, 2008 at 7:31 pm
Ach, crying men. *So* hot. Thank you. And weepy Gabriel Byrne = yummy. Actually, anyone called Gabriel = yummy.
April 25, 2008 at 8:58 pm
Dacryphilia.
Is it better when you cause it?
If so, is it better when you cause it physically, or when he misses you emotionally?
April 25, 2008 at 10:41 pm
bbenn has often, in those most desperate of intimate moments, bound and hurting, whispered that he wants me to make him cry. With eye contact. With a *please.*
We’ve roleplayed it, we’ve tried to do it with pain, but it hasn’t happened yet. Not in a d/s context. Believe me, the attempts have been serious. Not every scene is an opportunity, nor is it something to focus on or push. But we’ve tried. Considering how much we both want it, I know we’ll get there eventually.
What’s funny is, the times we have been near to what I thought would be making him cry, especially from pain, what happens is uncontrolled laughter. Paradoxical. Fascinating. Upping the pain level to the point of pushing my own limits hasn’t gotten us past the laughing. Those scenes have been among the most memorable we’ve ever had, although someone looking on might have labeled them “spoiled.” Hah! Nothing further from the truth.
There is definitely something thrilling about your submissive partner breaking down. Something raw, bonding, and meaningful. Bringing a partner to tears has always played a big part in my fantasies, from way back to childhood. The role of power over comforting versus exacerbating that level of emotion is huge in my personal experience of being the “dom.”
bbenn is one of those very stoic, closed kind of men, and I’ve only ever seen real tears on him twice in two years. A tear or two squeezed out against all will, no sobs or streaming down the face type stuff. It does not come easily for him, yet he yearns for it.
Beautiful, just gorgeously beautiful.
Sometimes sadism and giving of your soul and mind-rocking tender intimacy can really go together.
April 25, 2008 at 11:10 pm
Lovely.
April 26, 2008 at 9:55 am
Matthew Fox does good tears. I mainly watch Lost for the bits where Jack cries. Loved the scene in the cell where Juliet reduces him to tears over his ex-wife. Plus, you know, chains, and futile defiance.
April 26, 2008 at 11:10 am
What weirdest about the way I like men crying is that I cry so easily. Too easily. It gets in the way of a lot of conversations.
It doesn’t even need to be bad stuff, most strong emotion makes me cry. And orgasms.
With me, crying is cheap. But I like to see it in a place where it has a value.
(I don’t know what would be equivalently rare and precious to get out of me… silence, maybe).
Oh yes, and yes to Lost, for all the same reasons. And Sayid. (Also, Pan looks like Matthew Fox - for real. It’s kind of uncanny.)
April 26, 2008 at 6:57 pm
Pan looks like Matthew Fox? You lucky, lucky girl.
Crying is cheap with me, too. I cry at the drop of a hat. Sad things make me cry, obviously, but also happy things, and inspirational things. And orgasms. That’s a sod. I think it really messed up my last relationship when that started happening.
Emotional distress in general does it for me, far more than physical distress.
April 27, 2008 at 1:57 pm
I saw this show at the white cube a few years ago. The photos were printed huge & hung in the space so that you were completely surrounded by crying men. Brilliant, and also rather hot ^_^
April 27, 2008 at 8:26 pm
I cry when I’m unhappy or frightened. Does that turn you on? Me being scared or sad?
May 12, 2008 at 12:13 pm
Wonderful! Thank you for these.
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