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Just to satisfy my slightly egomanical curiosity I would love it if, when you mail me, you can tell me how you found my blog, how long you have been reading it and how much of it you have read.
bitchybitchyjones (at) yahoo (dot) com
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58 Comments
February 16, 2007 at 1:03 pm
I hope you dont mind me posting a comment. I know I am not what you are looking for. My hair and eyes are the wrong color, and people do not rush up to me on the street, or tell me I am good looking. Nor do I have a brother let alone a twin. So I know that I am not even close to what you would say is worthy. I just wanted to say that I have read your blogs and I realy enjoy them. I am adding them to my favourites list and really looking forward to reading more. That is of course if it is ok with you. I also really hope you find the perfect man to serve all your needs and desires. You clearly deserve it. Oh and bye the way if I were in any way able to escape this godforsaken hell on earth, otherwise known as the peoples republic of haliburton, It would be my pleasure to serve you anything you wished while in the nude.
February 16, 2007 at 7:38 pm
Hello you.
Ah, you do sound nice and polite. Shame you don’t meet my insane, exacting standards. Then again, they hardly ever do.
B
March 28, 2007 at 9:00 pm
well, i probably miss on almost all counts…
born a girl, not pretty, not masculine
but i can take pain, lots
and i really really like tea
i could serve it in the nude, or just sit with you and talk (so not 24/7 either)
but like i said, you’re not interested
well, if you get desperate…
gah, i’m not some weirdo stalker, honest, i just realised how icky that sounds…
btw, if it’s not sexual acts, just pain, why does the recipient still have to be male?
just a preferance/orientation thing, or can you not get into headspace with other women?
just wondering
March 28, 2007 at 10:22 pm
How much pain?
No! Ignore that.
Um…
March 29, 2007 at 9:20 am
i’m female bodied, going through some woo woo shit with my gender at the moment and choosing to go bu Julian, soooo many people have turned round and gone “WTF? why that name??” but i like it, it feels right
so it your eyes, yes i probably count as girl, but i’d prefer Julian and male pronouns if you don’t mind.
and as for poly, it can be many diffrent things
i just meant it in the “master isn’t going to kill me if i meet someone and get a nice beating” way, well, as long as he gets details afterwards!
and to be honest i’m unsure *how* much pain i can take, tops usually get bored and complain their arm hurts…
or think that me screaming means i want them to stop…
April 6, 2007 at 4:12 pm
Your comment about serving tea in the nude got my mind started on the topic of tea. I sincerely hope this is not the wrong place to post this musing…
Most people are mystified about why some people make such a big deal out of tea. This is simply because they never had a good cup of tea. You know you made a good pot of tea, if sniffing it’s smell makes you think it’s probably illegal to drink.
Then, to be served this substance by a nude male, must be the best part of any day. What joy lies in that knowledge for any sub performing that service.
April 8, 2007 at 11:39 pm
Salute!
Well done, “bitchy”. It’s nice to see others who are comfortable in their own skin. We are a rare bunch, truth be told.
From one with less specific, if still clearly defined, desires, I enjoy your writings, responses and the brown nosing you receive. Fun to watch!
April 8, 2007 at 11:46 pm
Er, thanks. I’m kind of almost sure this is a compliment.
April 8, 2007 at 11:56 pm
HAH! Definitely a compliment!
(duh, otherwise why would I salute?) (hhmm, how to communicate respect in text w/o the tincture of…
[thoughts are so much more three dimensional than text]
anyway, long story boring, music in my head, just a passing “high five” to a possibly like minded libertine/person-of-themself-and fuck’ em{me?} if they can’t take joke!
April 11, 2007 at 10:20 am
Got sent here by A Girl With A One Track Mind..
This is so far away from my scene(sex- wise), but I keep on reading. Mainly because it’s a good read. I like your topics, your honesty and your oasis of good funny writing on a blog. (excuse mine, English is not my native tounge). I am also intrigued of the psychology of it all.. Being a sadist, and being turned on by it. have you done some analyzis (lack of better word) why you like this? It’s not something that one should feel obliged to do, but it would’ve been interesting to hear your take on it.
Thanks for the goos read..
April 13, 2007 at 9:31 pm
You do write well, but you’ve been told that before. Oh hell, I’ll add my offer to serve tea in the nude as well. (At least I’m in the UK, though probably the wrong bit.)
May 21, 2007 at 7:27 pm
Excellent thoughts on the speed, efficiency and utter selfishness of handcuffs.
There’s also the connotation of irrevocability — if someone shows up and you slap the cuffs on, that’s all the consent you need to work them over to your heart’s content.
So…where would one show up for your consideration?
May 21, 2007 at 7:54 pm
There’s an email address at the top of this page. I make no promises. But you can *try*.
June 2, 2007 at 4:06 pm
I know what you mean when you say that you like masculinity and you’d get off with the power over that ultimate. But are you saying that masculinity is really the ultimate? Have you ever been / thought of being the dom with a woman? Why / why not?
June 2, 2007 at 8:37 pm
It doesn’t really do anything for me.
June 3, 2007 at 8:31 am
What doesn’t?
June 3, 2007 at 8:38 am
Dominating women
June 3, 2007 at 10:23 am
Hmmm..
June 3, 2007 at 7:40 pm
Hmmm, what?
June 3, 2007 at 8:22 pm
Hmmm: thinking about what you said, and perhaps still trying to find that wave (?) of thought in me.
June 3, 2007 at 8:36 pm
you are a terrific, thoughtful writer.
June 6, 2007 at 10:45 pm
don’t want to say much but you are a frisky good lemon vodka shot in the web world of lies and imagination that finds to be the FEMDOM.com world.
isn’t about “iminlikewithyou.com” but you become my heroine.
i mean is like fixing my ears and eyes with my heroine.
anyway i found your words as good and fresh as lemon vodka shot.
thanx!.
July 20, 2007 at 10:30 pm
I have no idea how I found my way here. One minute I was drinking wine and clicking random links, and the next I was here. Hooray!
Hope I can find the way back again, this was far more interesting than the usual blogs I wander through.
July 21, 2007 at 12:55 pm
(Just wanted to say, I was sat in CCK nattering to someone I vaguely knew but mostly didn’t the other day, and it was beyond sweet to discover that she was another regular reader of yours. It’s, like, you’re practically a fandom. I’d give you tea in the nude any day, but I don’t think you’d appreciate either my weirdo mintyjasmine tea or my titties, so I’d probably better not bother.)
July 25, 2007 at 8:37 pm
You’re welcome for tea in the nude here as well
though that would mean a trip across the pond… Your blog inspired me to start my own, and encourages me to continue my exploration into FemDom, so you’re the first link on my page 
Please continue posting!
August 1, 2007 at 4:10 am
..like your blog. it’s so rare to find someone who knows how to rage correctly. i’m not sure how i found it. i was googling something and it popped up.
FGDK
August 13, 2007 at 5:04 pm
Ms. Bitchy:
I really enjoy your blog. I found it on iObey’s (??) blog.
I am located in Texas and I am relatively a newbie; I have been in the “scene” (I feel so cheesy saying that) for about a year +.
I belong to a lovely group called ClubFEM based in Houston. Here is their website: http://www.clubfem.com/
We also have a yahoo msg board/grp for communication and information sharing w/in the grp.
I am creating a web page with yahoo and would like to know if I may hyper-link your blog to my webpage? I think our grp would really enjoy it as well.
I am putting a few personal fetish photos (my measly attempt of being creative), but there will be no nudity if that matters? (FYI).
Thanks,
Ms. Laura
standzwfitz@yahoo.com
September 3, 2007 at 11:48 am
Hi Bitchy, I linked you my blog, I hope you don’t mind. I regularly check your blog and as a newbie in both blogging and dominatrixin’ I find you insights most useful and don’t forget fun!
September 7, 2007 at 6:13 pm
I’ve been reading your blog too long.
I realised this today.
There was a *very* nice car outside my work, the reg plate read GAGS (there were numbers instead of letters at somepoint but thats what it said essentially)
One of my customers remarked on the car(it was *very* nice) and said maybe it belonged to a famous comedian.
I said maybe it belonged someone not famous who liked to…..
He stopped me and told me it was too early to discuss that sort of thing. Oops.
I say this proves I’ve been reading your blog too long because I’m vanilla(bit of light bondage, the odd blindfold maybe a spanking as he thrusts but that doesn’t count), I’ve never used a gag during sex but when I saw the reg plate I didn’t even think of light hearted jokes, I my first and only thought was of a man with a ball in his mouth.
I say I’ve been reading too long but maybe it’s just the right length of time!
September 7, 2007 at 6:20 pm
I’m vanilla(bit of light bondage, the odd blindfold maybe a spanking as he thrusts but that doesn’t count)
Ha ha. I love that kind of vanilla. And vanilla sex doesn’t do much for me.
October 1, 2007 at 5:03 pm
Bitchy, I love your writings! Thanks to you I am going to leave the vanilla world tonight.
I have been reading your blog for about a year now and have read every word that you wrote. I think that I found it through The Girl with the One Track Mind.
Just wanted to say thanks!
October 1, 2007 at 5:09 pm
Good luck. Don’t expect *too* much will you. It’s just a stupid way of having sex.
October 1, 2007 at 7:09 pm
True, but I am looking foward to having sex for the first time in as long as I can remember.
October 10, 2007 at 9:34 pm
I enjoy your narrative, and reading about poly life as well. I just got through reading the Ethical Slut and have noticed a lot of poly folk are in the SF Bay Area. Anyways I’m going to try to up the men’s wear in my life
I am reading at work during down time, so far I’m through July since yesterday.
October 27, 2007 at 6:01 pm
While your lifestyle is not my lifestyle, I can still appreciate good writing and thought provoking prose. The thing is, Bitchy, the way you confront it all. You’re so fucking relentless and harsh on yourself. You try so hard to not get away with anything, to not fool yourself that you’re anything other than you are, that what you crave is anything other then it is. You try to be genuine and thoughtful - not thoughtful like “please and thank you” but thoughtful like THINKING about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. So many of us are sheep, bleeting around with our heads down, unaware and completely UNTHOUGHTFUL (if that’s a word, which I doubt).
Thank you for being you - for being one of my mentors in my quest for THOUGHTFUL living - for stepping outside the flock, which can be a frightening, lonely place.
November 4, 2007 at 11:48 am
Hi BJ
I can’t remember how I found your blog ( the only one I read ) but I am a frequent visitor and enjoy reading three or four entries consecutively.
Your seemingly flow of conciousness musings, ramblings and rants are entertaining and sometimes thought provoking even when off the mark. Which matters not because it is the world according to you , your blog….your moment.
I’m 54…heavily muscled….with a girlfriend whose tastes seem eerily similar to yours…( likes big tough hard men ) She is smart….well dressed….atractive….lol…chunky…sadist…who gets weak and wet when she cuffs me to a pole….I look her in the eye and and show her how much pain I can take….until I can’t…very little ritualization or fancy knots etc….lol…takes me a couple of weeks to heal ….no speculation on femdom, mandom, domina this or that…just hard violence…then great sex….
I’ve showed her your blog….big smile….Good Luck
November 4, 2007 at 1:20 pm
Silksif, the word is THOUGHTLESS. *Burp*
December 11, 2007 at 11:08 pm
I need to lick her feet but she’ll think I’m strange. Should I just take the risk? Or go online to get it on the side…..
December 14, 2007 at 3:11 pm
Dearest Goddess
I have just revisited your website again. My first visit was after I watched the TV documentary you refer to on your Home Page.
I was knocked out by what you have to say in your “Three Rules of Being a Dominatrix” section. I realize that you are being ironic, but the section is no less amazing for that. However, please may I make one small suggestion? You may, of course, beat me for my insolence in daring to suggest that your website might be in anyway regarded as less than perfect, but my suggestion is as follows:
Please may I ask you to put an “HTML anchor tag” at the top of your three rules section? I have already added your Home Page to my list of favourites. It would be fabulous if I could also add a second “Favourite”, which linked direct to your Three Rules.
Adding an anchor tag would be dead easy to do. You would simply need to edit the relevant section of your HTML file (which I am guessing is named “index.htm”
and change the following:
Rule One: Dress the part.This you have to know, if being a dominatrix, a dominant woman, a domme …
So that it now appeared as follows:
to Rule One: Dress the part.This you have to know, if being a dominatrix, a dominant woman, a domme …
This would mean that anyone who knew the name of the anchor (RuleOne, in this case), could link straight to it by amending the Web Address:
http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/contact-bitchy/index.html
to:
http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/contact-bitchy/index.html#RuleOne
What say you Goddess? Does this sound like a good idea?
Love and Kisses
Richard
P.S. If you would like to do any little thing to thank me for my suggestion, then please may I ask you to invite me to your home, tie me up and then do with me as you see fit?
I know that such is not for everyone and that many people are put off by acts of gratuitous cruelty. However, speaking only for myself. I do so like that in a woman!
December 18, 2007 at 7:51 am
I know you get something from such sites as fucking machines and men in pain but have you tried Special Exercises .com.No men being put through their exacting paces but it might reignite your lesbian side.
December 18, 2007 at 8:56 am
Gee, thanks, porn with naked women in it. How rare and unusual. I’m straight. I know that for some reason being a dominant woman seems to map directly on to bisexual in the minds of every-fucking-body in the fucking world, but I am fucking straight.
I am sick to death of the fact that straight women do not exist as consumers of porn and that people who make kink porn find it a-okay to make about 50% of it f/f.
It is so fucking offensive that kink does this. Men are invisible in kink porn. Way worse that mainstream porn where at least there are some fringe attempts at more interesting stuff. KINK PORN IGNORES WOMEN!
Also that dominatrix/exercise trainer shit is fucking ridiculous fucking shit. Kink s about sex and a fucking loathe anything that tries to make out it is anything else.
God.
December 18, 2007 at 9:24 pm
Hey Beej - will this make you feel a little bit better?
Wet Speedos on the Brain.
It’s not porn, but it looks to be decent eye candy.
December 21, 2007 at 3:43 pm
Hmm. Random thought- everyone talks about Men In Pain, but I’ve always liked Insex better than any of the Kink.com things.
Have you ever seen http://www.insexm.com?
I got to see Sir C play in public, and while she loooves her elaborate rope bondage (which I’m not into) her stuff was always pretty fun to watch.
I’d like to know what your opinion on it is.
December 23, 2007 at 3:40 am
A film called Verfolgt or by its English title (a not direct translation) was released in 2006 and has received awards at festivals.It is the story of a I think a parole officer of 50 who takes charge of a 16 year old miscreant and shows their S & M relationship.It got rave reviews for its great acting and nuanced sensitivity.
December 23, 2007 at 3:41 am
Sorry the English title was “Punish Me”.
December 23, 2007 at 5:19 pm
Verfolgt / Punish Me: I watched the film together with my partner when it was shown in the cinema here earlier this year. We liked it. We liked the aesthetics, the way the characters are portrayed, and found the SM scenes believable and intense.
If you would like to read more about it, I posted a review of Verfolgt / Punish Me on Fetishlore.
Text both in English and German, with links.
January 6, 2008 at 12:38 am
Thank you Ranai Maam for the link.
January 7, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Love your work! Have been reading the blog for about two months now, almost daily and working my way steadily through the archives. Your articulate and kinky brand of feminism appeals to me in so many ways and has opened my eyes in different ways to the world of kink, with which i thought i was on a first name basis. You have liberated me from handcuffs and heels and sent me into the breach with an entirely different perspective, for which i give you thanks. I read that you are keen for a wikipedia entry? You appear there under Bitchy Jones, however as per your request Mistress (hehe), I intend to start one under the title Beej fans…with a link of course. Your wish is my command. Cheers, mim
January 7, 2008 at 5:07 pm
I heard about your blog through the sex in the noughties program on sex blogs. dominatrix’s are something i am interested in and i was wondering how you get into being a professional dominatrix?
January 7, 2008 at 5:46 pm
How *I* got into being a professional dominatrix? Are you purely here to prove my point about assumptions about my sexuality?
If you mean just generally - there is a great article about just that right here
http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/2007/09/22/you-too-can-be-a-professional-asshat/
Essentially I believe you need to acquire the following tools of your trade: black plastic, clown make up, shoes made out of broken glass, some lingerie and a strap on cock (this is the most important thing - you cannot dominate someone unless you have a cock NEVER FORGET THIS)
(1) place ad on Craig’s List saying you are a dominicatrica and all men should email you now because just by reading your words they are already feeling a submissive trance-coma come over them. Mention that you will not respond to emails that are not accompanied by TRIBUTE
repeat until rich
(2) make an appointment with a hapless desperate fool who offers the most TRIBUTE
(3) wrap yourself tightly in black plastic, apply clown make up, pull hair into tight pony tail, slip into shoes
(4) have someone carry you to your front door
(5) greet fool and tell him to put on lingerie as he is clearly not a real man and is a slut sissy boy - don’t forget that this is *hilarious*. Also it is not misogynistic to humiliate him by feminising him because it just isn’t, okay!
(6) spank him for being late/early/on time/disrespectful/human
(7) fuck him for being a slut/sissy/wanting it in his man pussy. Also this is not about woman hating either because IT JUST ISN@T OKAY!!!!1111
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(9) teach workshops in how to be dominant/do tying up/understand the unique dynamic of the BDSM
January 7, 2008 at 10:56 pm
Nice one Beej…sometimes wonder if people who post comments actually read the blog, or if they are functionally illiterate pseduo kink freaks who just don’t get it. Since when was sex about not having fun, and furthermore…where on your blog does it state that you are a ‘professional dominatrix’?? I fear for the future
January 25, 2008 at 2:54 am
Humor is the most powerful charm. (in all senses of the term).
And you are the living demonstration of that.
Intelligence, wit, sensitivity and a good dose of realism with that little added ingredient that is a bit magical and hard to define, all combine into humor. It’s irresistible. It’s the real seduction. Anyone who has it can seduce anybody, or anything(!). And to me you are extremely seductive, Bitchy Jones
How I found your blog: It’s late at night, I’m enormously late on a drawing, and to add to my procrastination problem, I’m stopping every now and then in search of any excuse to get distracted from my drawing. Just because I’m so late in my work. Lately I’ve been reading a few blogs on femdom. Well, it is a distraction, but I can take only a little at a time. Sometimes very little. I found very little on femdom from those blogs. It’s more about vanilla marriages I think… But then, I did find a link to your diary. And it’s been such a refreshing discovery. And since you ask, so far I’ve only read: “No, Really: I Can Give Up Anytime At All”; “Topping From the Bottom or From Beneath You It Devours” (Excellent!); “The Weakest Link”; “Gasp in Wonderment at my Spectacular Fallibility and Stupid - Then Enjoy Triumph and Nipple Clamps”; “The Mandom Manifesto” (So sweet); “Dominatrixing: So Over”; “Orgasm Control and Male Chastity Stuff and Why That’s Fun”, very very great too; Mmmh, yes, I think that’s all for now. I’ve had such a good time reading it all. Sometimes because I had felt so much the same on the subject, and, maybe, just maybe, possibly, because sometimes I’m feeling a trifle like a duck that finds himself in the middle of the target. Which is equally amusing. Bravo!
February 4, 2008 at 3:47 am
Hope this one is more toyour taste most of the trailer videos are tosh and seem to have little if anything to do with what we all enjoy here.
However the vice one is paricularly good.he is not going anywhere and those nipple clamps look truly awesome.
tyrannized.com
February 12, 2008 at 2:41 am
B.J,this is a fanletter from a 31 year old woman.
I´m a dominant living with a submissive man since 7 years.
And I am forever grateful to you for writing this blog,because I thought I was the only one feeling uncomfortable in the “scene”,and disgusted of seeing dressed up prostitutes wishlists.
I want to buy you comfy Clark´s and make you scones and watch Buffy episodes with you…
and I´m not even into women.
But I adore you,B.J.
February 12, 2008 at 12:15 pm
Thank you. It’s so nice to know that people appreciate what I am trying to say and that it means something to them
March 15, 2008 at 10:23 pm
I found you a little over a week ago while surfing domme websites. Christine X had you linked; the name “Bitchy Jones” was appealing, so I clicked. Your freshness and style grabbed me from the start. Now I can’t look at pro-domme ads or blogs without snorting coffee out of my nose.
So far, I’ve read your last few posts, your “how to be a pro-domme” comment above, “Fuck Me,” the glossary, “Every Man I Have Ever Pissed On,” “Me and My Boyfriend and Stuff We Did Lately,” and “The Complete Bitchy Jones.”
Your Fantasia post made me wonder: when it comes to your fantasy life, does it improve the fantasy if the man is not willingly submissive? The corollary question is: in a real life relationship, does the guy’s enjoyment of his submissive role ever detract from the experience?
April 11, 2008 at 1:13 am
I enjoy your posts. I am thankful that their are people like you in the world. I am impressed that you put your thoughts and feelings into such a harsh and hateful world. I fully realized how impressive you are once I read the negative comments you posted along side your entries. I enjoy your posts.
May 21, 2008 at 4:33 am
Well, Ms Jones, I’ve read all the way from start to finish (what was that about being a text masochist?
). I think it took me over a month of reading every day to suck up each and every entry with the posted comments, and now that I am hooked, I am checking EVERY day for updates (no pressure).
Bravo on, well, being so damned smart and brave and articulate!! Admittedly, before happening upon your blog (your name in The Girl’s bloglist was irresistable), I was clueless about the subject matter (being a misrepresented femdom and a real woman in ‘kinkdom’ (for lack of a better word)).
Even though I’m very much a ‘vanilla’ chick (with a little twist of choke me/bite me/spank me), you have managed to cause some stirring of the loins with some of your more intimate posts (is that dirtybadnaughty?). And in every post there is a lesson to be learned - about you and about kink and about feminism.
You’re on my blogroll now, and I hope you don’t mind being there (let me know if you do), because I am in awe of your ability to so easily convert your thoughts, experiences and feelings into text (for the text masochists like me). That’s something to aspire to.
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