I am a dominant woman and I do not have a strap on cock
And it may surprise you to learn this, but they actually aren’t compulsory. They are also rubbish. And here I shall outline why I think strap-on play is a bunch of fucking crap and has absolutely nothing to do with a dominant woman taking her pleasure from a man and, as is often the case, my voice will be like a plaintive howl in the wind. I am the Cassandra of female domination
Because, yes, strap-ons, aren’t they great? Aren’t they the bloody business? Flick a few straps and you have a big butch penis with which you can bugger your merry way about the place.
Actually, no. Strap-ons fucking suck.
You see, the problem with strap-ons is, they are not actually part of my body. No matter how good the harness is, they’re not actually attached to my central nervous system, which, forgive me, is kind of the big deal with the penis. Some of you have got one, right? You know how it’s got all those nerve endings? You know how it’s all sensitive? You know how that’s kind of the whole damn point?
Is that clear? Want it clearer?
I. Cannot. Feel. Anything.
And guess what – there are many, many parts of me that are wired for sensation. Nice sensations. I like my genitalia. If I’m having sex I would like to use them, actually. I find that rather more pleasurable, freak that I am.
Being vaginally penetrated feels nice. You do know that, right? What are you? From Victorian times? You do know that women enjoy sex, right? That women enjoy penetrative sex?
Why does so much of femdomland act as if being vaginally penetrated is some kind of huge annoying inconvenience to women that we are never going to grant you because – oh, you are not worthy. And yet strapping it on and doing you up the arse is, like, our biggest ever thrill. Like, that would be our choice of the two.
And, no, fucking someone with a strap-on is not empowering. Having to use a rubber cock to fuck someone is – I think – rather the opposite. It’s like an admission that a woman isn’t equipped to fuck and dominate someone. It’s equating the dom-fuck with the penis.
Having to strap a phallus to myself to be a dom? Empower me backwards!
Listen carefully and you’ll hear the oh so subtle message of strap-on play: You need a cock to be on top, you need a cock to be a dom, you need a cock to fuck.
I mean really, seriously really, does no one else think that it is *fucked* *up* that scenes of a woman dominating a man often culminate in her doing a more politically dubious drag act than your average forced fem session.
A culture where femdom sex puts more value on strap-on up arse than cock in vagina it is saying that the person on top, doing the fucking, intrinsically has more power than the one on her back getting soundly pounded. Which really isn’t true. There’s a lot of nasty things I can do to a person when I’m underneath them, close to their belly and their chest and their nipples. Things that they can’t really stop me doing because their arms are busy bearing their weight and doing all the work of fucking me extremely nicely and hardly
( – whenever I want, however I want, again and again… and get yourself hard again now, darling, you’ve had your five minutes…come on, stop crying, it can’t be that sore already, it’s only been six times…, until they’re exhausted and begging me – oh, please – not to make them do it again... or please, could I at least not have the nipple clamps on this time…?
Because really, that thing where the orgasm starts to hurt after the fourth or fifth time – such a nice design feature. I mean, you know I don’t go in for natural order of things talk, but if I wanted evidence…)
I mean CB 2000 users can buy a strap-on for men to wear over the damn cock cage. For fucking women. The point being: fucking with a strap-on is so pleasure free it’s a way of the woman getting her fuck without chasteboy feeling anything fun.
Do you see? Because strap on fucking is pointless and rubbish for the fucker. Another branch of the femdom corporation has given you away. Can you say, own goal?
If you want a woman to stick something up your arse, fine. But that is what is happening. She is not fucking you for *her* pleasure. She is not making you her bitch. She is doing you a favour. My objection to strap-on play isn’t to the act itself so much as it being the femdom come shot.
Shouldn’t the femdom come shot involve the dom’s actual cunt?
Fuck strap-on play. For serious. I’m a woman. I get to get fucked *and* be the dom.
I get to lie on my back and still be on top.